Letter to God 2

This is in response to the comments on this article

By: Anan Amos

Dear God

If you were human, I would say that you are absolutely insane for even considering to send Moshiach (Messiah). These people in this world are so horrible, they are so shallow and so low. They are quick to judge one another, they do not consider each other’s feelings. They have a thought, they feel like they need to spit it out. They don’t take a moment and try to imagine the other person’s situation and they might be going through.

These same sicko people, who are called and make up “the world” learn your Torah, but then act 100% against it a slight moment later. A small example is when a major rabbi which you gifted to us once said “the traits you see in another, are traced evidence of traits that are to be found in you” – some of this “world” have issues with the Rabbis – so you God had a awesome resolution to that too – you gifted the world with wise “worldly” people – such as gifted scientists and philosophers – which they built an expression that goes “Don’t judge a book by its cover“. The world had an issue with these people as well!

God acted further with his great mercy and abundance of love whereby gifting the world with Talented People, such as artists, musicians, comedians etc. – some of these artists painted portraits of God’s beautiful world, capturing the beauty of people and the world as it is = the world responded with “pictures are fantasies” type of remarks. Musicians of all sorts, tried singing passages of Torah, that didn’t work, they tried singing about love and acceptance. Nope. In fact they accused the king of pop of being a child molester. The man couldn’t handle it and ordered his doctor to kill him. Further more the world kept digging its own pit to get deeper and deeper into a dark endless place – where hip-hop and rap was born. One of these so called artists came up with a lyric saying “…You’d have to walk a thousand miles in my shoes just to see, what it’s like to be me, I’ll be you, let’s trade shoes just to see what it be like to feel your pain, you feel mine, go in side each others’ minds just to see what we’d find look at things through each others eyes”

– that is when these great Chachamim (Scholars), told us that it’s not Chassidishe (Hassidic attitude) and that we need to not go to low levels and that it’s not kosher. We need to sit and learn Torah.

Well here’s what I say.

I agree. Initially we should all learn and practice Torah. But then if that doesn’t work. Nature is that we search for other outlets. Until some people realize that this world is full of garbage and people are just too confused for whatever reason it may be. That is when the true Emes (True) people go back to the beginning and start over. Not getting Nispael (Intimidated) from what people have to say – despite if 99% of the world talks negative toward you – fact is that only 1% of the world’s population own 99% of the worlds wealth. Another expression that is out there goes “it’s lonely to be on the top” oh wait sorry – I forgot we need to talk about Torah. Ok – what does the Shamash (Clerk) of the Chanukah menorah do? He gets to light up the whole menorah then he is separated and put to the side. We sing to these candles saying how holy they are. Yet that one single candle is forgotten and has a Halacha that seems to allow us to use and abuse him. Shluchim (Emissary Rabbis) does this sound familiar to you? What’s your relationship with your gevirim (sponsors)?

So my question to you dear God..,

We are taught to learn and love your Torah. But then we see how even our own Rabbis and communities go against it. Then they wonder why there are so many youngsters who rebel…? Then when we come back with our findings; we get bashed… Why? Just because these Rabbis and people know how truly challenging following Torah and mivtzot is. Then when they see this young individual – who only seeks to shine some light and help – suddenly gets it and it sounds so simple. That’s when their little demons come back to this “world” and they now bashing that individual with comments similar to “big ego” or “so full of yourself” and the like.

God, can the world get anymore lower? Can you not remember history? What happened in Egypt? The Jewish Nation reached the 49th level of Tumah (Impurity)- they say that there are 50 and if the 50th is reach then there is no return from there.

God – isn’t Marshall Mathers and his associates considered the lowest of the low?

Thankfully, God, you are NOT human; therefore I think it’s time that you let history reply itself and send Mashiach to save us from all this adversity despite it looking and seeming that we are not REALLY suffering. But trust me we are!

Lets do our part to bring Mashiach despite what the world says. It’s the only thing that can save us!

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Personal Thoughts of Shiduchim (Matchmaking) and Relationships

By: Anan Amos

6a00fad6af22a9000501101666bd4e860d-500piLet me preface a little before talking about what I am looking for in a relationship and what I am looking for in a wife to be.

I got married at the age of nineteen to a girl who at the time was seventeen. We were very much in love and we had our ambitions set high to achieve great things together in life. However, since we both came from unstable homes, our motives and our value system was a little flawed. We were both looking to run away from our homes, run away from our problems and from our pasts. We were hoping to get a better future for ourselves. This is not a wrong thing, it is not a bad thing, but we were doing it all wrong. Being immature and coming from the type of background we were coming from; it was very challenging to see the right path despite however much we tried.

Our relationship was starting to deteriorate even before we got married, but we thought to stick it through and get married non-the-less. Five years and three beautiful children later, we found ourselves separated. Less than a year later, divorced.

It has been two years now since my divorce. I believe it has come time for me to start looking for a new match. This time, however, it is VERY different. In the past two years, I have taken several online psychology classes, have taken therapy sessions and have explored many different avenues that all combined have helped me discover my true self, get over my past, and set myself straight for my future.

Today, I know exactly where I am headed. I am twenty-seven and I am more or less stable with my life. I am going back to school in Canada to finish off my degree in Commerce and Marketing; the government will pay for most of my schooling and there are various resources that are available to me that will assist me financially and physically. Therefore, going back to school will not affect my relationship life in any way. Once I complete my degree, I hope with the help of God to move to Los Angeles, which has been my dream town since I was a child. I have greater ambitions and dreams; I know that I am a great person, a great father and a great relationship partner. Today, in comparison to ten years ago, all is more feasible and reasonable. No one says you cannot dream, however one should know that there is a process to get to your end goal, and sometime it takes time, patience and perseverance.

With that being said, I know I am special, and I am looking for that special someone. Yes, ONE! My job is to find that needle in a haystack, that one in a million, that special someone who I want to give myself entirely with no expectations of anything in return; complete selflessness toward my life partner. I hope and pray that this time around it will be a long lasting and forever lasting long term loving relationship.

Let me elaborate.

In today’s society and with our social conditioning in our generation, we are taught that we are to marry a certain criteria and look for certain so-called values. I strongly and utterly believe that our belief system and value system is flawed and skewed by what is known as Modern Social Conditioning. These Social Conditioning tactics marketers are using via all sorts of media channels and outlets are in order to essentially hypnotize us to purchase the item they are selling. The advertisers bombard us with over a thousand images and messages per second, up until the point that we no longer have mental control over what we are consuming mentally. Just take Facebook as a simple example. People have hundreds of “friends” on Facebook. Who are these friends? What makes this person our “friend”? We now have to go back to the fundamentals of what initially defines friendship. Therefore in today’s Modern Social Conditioning, we are forced to ask, “What kind of ‘friend’ are you?” in which we are implying “a ‘Facebook Friend” or a “Realistic Friend”? This is unfortunately the sad realistic truth of what we are exposed to in the twenty-first century.

Going back to relationships, in our modern Socially Conditioned religious communities. Girls are led to believe that if they were never married, they are to marry someone who was never married or has no kids. If you come from a certain financial or social class, you cannot marry someone from another class. If your family history brings you from a certain demographic in the world, you cannot marry someone from a different demographic due to illusionary stereotypical criteria set by I don’t know whom. Finally with all that being said, people are crying that there is some form of Shiduch (Matchmaking) Crisis! The only crisis, in my opinion, is that as religious and Hassidic Jews, we are conforming to society’s conditioning that is influenced by all the media that is out there.

I can go on and on about trying to prove my point; however I don’t find it necessary to waste precious Megabytes and each of our times. We all know (maybe too frightened to admit it) that this is pretty much the situation.

I would like to drive home a point and somewhat share what I am doing to look for my Shiduch (Match). Maybe, just maybe, some may have the courage to look past their denial and learn from the examples I am about to share. If not, well, let’s just leave it at that…

(Note: Everyone is different with different situations and points of view, which we are all entitled to. However, I believe that we can all share our experiences and maybe pick up one or two things that resonate with us as individuals. I believe in the expression “What is true, rings true”.)

partnershipHere’s what I did.

I wrote up a long list of ALL the things (values, criteria etc.) that I am looking for in a potential match. I also wrote a list of all my values and strengths/weaknesses I have (look at it as something similar to a SWOT Analysis just for relationships). My initial list has summed up to a total of something like forty-five characteristics. That is a long list.

I then took a new page, and drew a table. In this table I categorized certain characteristics that were similar one to another. For example (from my list): Adventurous, Free Spirited, Spontaneous, and Likes Trying New Things – all are essentially one characteristic. Another example is; Emotionally Stable, Good Values, Good Family, Large Family – pretty much all fall into the same category. Get the point?

Now finally in a third page I have two columns. One column is titled; “Can Live Without” and the second titled; “Cannot Live Without”. In which I will list six characteristics in each column. Therefore my columns look something like this:

Can Live without:

  • Outgoing
  • Easy going
  • Professional
  • Sense of Humor
  • Intelligent
  • Talented

Cannot Live without:

  • Emotionally Stable
  • Affectionate
  • Achiever
  • Spiritual
  • Confident
  • Healthy

If you can look at the first column, you would see some very important characteristics that I would love to have in a partner; however, they are not deal breakers. I really see them as bonuses. If you analyze my list you will also come to realize that the characteristics I have listed are very much intrinsic and on a deeper level. In other words: If I were to put in my list “Good Looking” or “Slim” or “Attractive” it will show that I am shallow. Why? Because, how long will the looks last for? How long will s/he stay slim for? What is truly the real definition of “attraction”? You see, I don’t put strong emphasis on these so-called and superficial characteristics, simply because they are not long-term characteristics. I am one-hundred-percent serious about getting into a relationship and getting married. I believe that I have my priorities straight. I am looking for someone who is as special as I am and has similar values as I do, because this time around I am looking for a longer term and long-ever-lasting relationship. If I were to look for those external and superficial characteristics, what will happen when they will expire? So will my relationship?

I would finally like to end off with some statistics from a study conducted by the University of Washington in 2011 on relationships. I found it quite interesting.

  • Divorce rate in the US: 64%
  • Those who are from divorced homes have a 74% chance of getting divorced. (Or not lasting in a long-term relationship)
  • Amongst divorcees, 94% will get divorced a second time
  • (Not from the study) Jewish Religious divorce rate in the US is around 17%

The study concluded, what can be derived from these numbers?

  • We are all conditioned to be selfish in our relationships, we looking for something in return. That is not what relationships are about. It is one hundred percent about giving to the other without expecting or waiting for anything in return. If you cannot accept this, you might be better off marrying yourself, because only you can please yourself and get along with yourself.
  • The reason why children of divorcees and broken homes have such a high percentage is because they had no role models on what a true and healthy relationship looks like. Therefore they will subconsciously relive and re-experience what they have been conditioned to at home.
  • Finally, the reason why divorcees get divorce a second time. Is because they keep doing their mistakes over and over again. Like Albert Einstein’s definition to insanity “Insanity is when one keeps trying over and over again the same exact thing, expecting different results each time”.

What is the answer to these issues? What is the solution to these problems?

  • We need to go back to the basics and re-learn what are relationships and what it’s all about? What were our parents and grandparents doing right?
  • Children from divorced homes should inquire and find out what were the real reasons of the divorce; if they cannot find it, let them make it up. But whatever the case is; they need to ask themselves, if they were in the same situations, how would they fix those problems? Once they find the answers, they should get to work and fix the problems. After they have rectified those issues, they should look for a mentor and/or a person that will show them an example of what a good relationship looks like. Whether it is a grandparent, sibling, uncle/aunt or friend. Whatever the case may be this person needs to look for examples of what healthy and good relationships look like. The child must mimic, learn, observe, ask and do whatever it takes. This is pretty much their only guarantee to a better or lower chance of divorce in their own relationship.
  • People that got divorced once must take responsibility over their actions, their parts and their role in the failed relationship. They need to ask themselves three things. What was my part in all of this? What attracted me to my spouse in the first place? Why didn’t my relationship work? What needed to be done to save the marriage? Then the person needs to get to work on those things before they get into another relationship. Once again this will lower their risk of divorce significantly.

I hope this article has helped you in a way or another. In either case, I would like to wish all my readers a happy and long-lasting relationship with your spouses, and for those readers who are searching for your spouses; I wish you all the luck in the world.

Please share your comments below. I would love to hear some feedback from you whether have anything to add or challenge anything I have said, in either case I would love to hear back. I can also be reached by email glaminglamor@gmail.com

Letter to God

Dear God

Firstly let me start by thanking you for everything you do for me, for showing me some happiness in my day despite what I go through, the pains and the suffering. I can see that I am not that bad off.

  • BH I have a job, even though I hate it and it sucks, but it still pays the bills.
  • I still have my children who love me, even if I am challenged in seeing them and having any relationship with them; I think of them, it pains me to remember how “far” we are, but then I get such Nachat from how adorable they are.
  • I still have my friends who are out there support me and talking to me whenever I need them – I mean what more can they do? Nor do I expect anything else from them.
  • I have my issues with the divorce, but then I have a great lawyer and Rabbi who are helping me out with it.
  • I have all my debts, but thank you God, for giving me really good agents in the collection agencies that are working with me, and trying to sort things out.
  • I have a good Shadchan, who doesn’t judge me for my past and for my “situation” – you know real well God that I am not like all the “other divorcees” – which brings me to my next gratitude
  • Thank you for giving me the courage to taking the right steps, the energy and power to follow through the intensive therapy that I went through and that I constantly continue on taking. I sincerely appreciate the growth that I have gained from all that, making me that different person than the average one.
  • Most importantly – Thank you God for answering my prayers and what I was about to write to you in this letter, even before I managed to finish my gratitude list.

Since my initial intentions for this letter are no longer valid and nor are they an issue, I would like to transform and redirect my focus towards a very strong lesson I learned here today.

My decision to writing this letter today to you God was initially to voice my frustration at the challenges I face. I pray, I talk to you, and I do everything in my ability to please you, yet I feel like my prayers are falling on deaf ears and my actions are for naught.  I felt that the best way to voice out my frustration and my “anger” towards you, was by using the vehicle of communication which I know best; writing. But then how can I just start a letter voicing all my frustration when in fact I have so much that I am grateful for? I mean, yes, I do have lots of challenges that I face daily. Some seem so overwhelming that I cannot see that light at the end of the tunnel. But then I know, that I am still at the beginning of that tunnel, and by simply turning the bend; there’s the light I was looking for! So yes, I start with my gratitude. I am so grateful for all the blessings that I DO have in my life, and furthermore, even some of these challenges; I can actually see their blessings. That is amazing in its’ own respect.

Therefore, the lesson I learned today. Regardless of what I am going through and regardless of whether or not I think or doubt if God is out there listening to me. Rest assured, God is there, and God is looking and listening with wide open eyes and ears. But sometimes that is not enough. I need to take some kind of physical action. Sometimes I need to use the talents and tools provided to me to come to a physical and emotional realization that God is there. I need to take the time to write down (in my case, since writing is my tool) what is bothering me, what I am grateful for and what I am feeling. Sometimes we may come to realize that even before we have finished writing, God already answered us, such as what just happened in this letter.

Thank you God for teaching me yet another valuable lesson, and thank you for all the gifts, tools and talents you have gifted me in order to better serve and understand you.

Your humble son.

The Point Most People Seem to be Missing about The Hassidic Community

English: Wailing Wall from the Tankizyya

English: Wailing Wall from the Tankizyya (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

In the recent few months the Hassidic Community has been getting quite a bit of media attention. It started with Oprah  (video attached to the link) interviewing and doing a segment on Hassidic Jews living in a small Brooklyn sector called Crown Heights. Then there was the story with Debora Feldman on The View (video attached to the link). There was Pearl Perry Reich on Dr. Phil (video attached to the link); and now this thing with The Asifa (lit. Gathering; which was to discuss the dangers of the internet in a Jewish Religious home and what the solution should be).

This article will discuss about what we as Hassidic Jews, myself included (as I was raised in a Hassidic home), go through, what we are taught, what we experience, and what is the outcome. But before I go into that I would like to give you a general idea of how Judaism as a religion is set up.

1. Jewish History 101

You see, we are a very small minority in the world; there are many reasons to that, due to persecution, libels, oppression, and our Halachic (Torah) views on accepting converts. But the main reason is simply because God Almighty wants it to be that way. It says in the Torah; “And you shall be to me a kingdom of priests, and a holy nation.” (Exodus 19:6) God has chosen the Jewish nation to be the chosen people and their aim in life is to act as role models onto the world; the fact that we have such a divine task, earns us the title of “chosen people.” Furthermore, we are the only religion in the world that actually discourages converts, whereas all other religions, conversion are one of their main behaviours.

Now, God has a very interesting way of running His world, it’s called Free Choice. God gave us the freedom of choice to choose how we would like to serve Him or not. The main reason is that it should come from a genuine place in our hearts. This is not only true to Jews but rather to all the nations of the world. The way God gave over the message onto the world is through the Bible or rather what we call Torah. The Torah is the foundation to most if not all religions, laws and traditional conduct as we know it today; some simple examples are the laws of not killing, not stealing as well as ethical laws such as not cheating and not lying. After God gave the Torah to Moses on Mt. Sinai He expected us to study the Torah and come to our own personal understanding. This will allow our own personal connection to the so called development of the Torah. Now what I mean by “development” is simply the uncovering of the hidden “code” that is in the Torah; this was done through very special groups of Rabbis that started right after the time of Moses, known as the Zekeinim (Elders), all the way down to the Authors of the Talmud and beyond (Ethics of our Fathers Chapter I). The Rabbis that were given authority to interpret and teach these new findings in Torah had to be of a very special and unique status and character.

Now with this whole preface on Jewish history, you can see how there is so much room for interpretation; seventy to be specific. The Talmud relates that “The Torah has seventy faces” (Bamidbar Rabbah 13:15)  In other words the Torah can be interpreted seventy different and unique ways. Why you ask? Because God wanted to “Enlarge the Torah and make it Mighty” (Isaiah 42:21)  also, wouldn’t it be nice to be served in so many various ways?

2. The Variety of Jewish Traditions

Here comes the juicy part of history and the main focal point of understanding modern Judaism.

There is a hierarchy “ladder” system in Jewish groups.

  1. Liberal new age Judaism
  2. Traditional and Modern Orthodox
  3. Ultra-Orthodox

That’s not it. These Categories are divided by demographical categories.

  1. Sefarad (of decent from Spain and most Arab or Muslim countries)
  2. Ashkenaz (most European countries including Russia as a whole)
  3. Mizrachi (quite recent; sort of a little bit of a mix of the two above; but is predominantly Sefarad)

The above categories only tell us from where the individuals get their traditions. Note each of these demographics had their Rabbis and leaders that had Halachic rulings associated with their culture and surroundings.

But wait, only to complicate things a bit more; these categories have sub-categories as well:

  1. In the Liberal Group
    1. Reconstructionist
    2. Reform
    3. Conservative
  2. In Traditional and Modern Orthodox
    1. Lots of groups that have different names depends on the community they come from
    2. Bnei Akiva
    3. Hebrew Academy
    4. Rabbi Shlomo Carlibach
    5. Dati Leumi (Nationally Religious)
  3. Ultra-Orthodox
      1. Chabad
      2. Breslev
      3. Bobov
      4. Satmar
      5. Litvish (Yeshivish)
      6. Skver
      7. Visznitz
      8. And so many other European and Russian/Ukrainian Groups

Yup = you guessed it… These groups themselves have sub-divisions, which I will not get into.

You see, our religion is so freak’n complicated, which conceives a whole bunch of confusion; no not only to you, not only to the world, but even to us.

Couple all that confusion and the need to survive all our persecution and you get one of two things or something in between.

  • Extreme Right-Wing Fundamentalist
  • Extreme Left-Wing Liberals

Today any sane Jewish individual has to find the healthy balance of the two; depending in which community they live in.

3. Observation on these recent developments

This part may include some of my personal resentment; it may include some of my personal judgments and prejudices; therefore please take this with a grain of salt and follow me through the logic and philosophical part of this.

Now that you got a very basic history lesson on Judaism in a nutshell, it will be a little easier to explain these recent stories that are being followed by the media.

People like Deborah Feldman and Pearl Perry Reich come from super ultra-orthodox communities. These people (trying not to judge) have a lot of personal issues with modern society and with anything outside the religion. In my personal research and analysis, I have concluded that a lot of this comes mostly from WWII – Nazi Germany and their reach. The community leaders tried their best to keep a close knit community to try and protect their members from getting lost to the world. They laid down some restrictions. As usual the common natures of people will be that some will take these restrictions to the extreme and some will find a healthy balance. The extremists had a higher chance of raising a dysfunctional home that will cause their children to possibly “run-away” or find another route.

Taking my personal story as an example:

I grew up in similar conditions; my family comes from the Traditional category. Our origins are traced back to Morocco and originally from Spain; that makes me of Sefaradi decent. My Father grew up in a very dysfunctional home. In order to escape his memories and the mistakes he has made in his personal life; he figured that he needed to become more religious. He chose Chabad; which is Ultra-Orthodox. This jump was extreme for the family and very stressful on me as a six year old child. My mother at the time was not ready to hear of it. I grew up in confusion until the age of nine and a half when my mother chose to join my father in his extreme religious views. I say extreme because my father had no real rabbi to guide him in his growth. He just jumped right to it and started mimicking people of the community around him. At this point; let’s add the beautiful ingredient of pain. I was abused; physically, mentally and even sexually. It has never stopped, it still goes on today.

4. The Point

This is not meant to be a sob story, therefore I will stop here. The point I am trying to make is:

  1. Judaism is a very small minority in the world, everything that happens in our small circles gets magnified. I strongly believe and it will be naïve of me to think that the abuse and extreme religious behaviours don’t exist in other religions and beliefs.
  2. Judaism has been under the radar for a while, mainly because it is too complicated to understand and to the protection of community leaders. I actually commend the media for trying to learn more of our culture, but I personally ask – do your proper research first; understand us fully before you look at individual and unique cases.
  3. There are mentally stable people and not so stable people in every culture, community and sector in society; that is normal life.
  4. Judaism is a stunning culture, a privilege to be, and so incredible in every shape and form. I personally now go to reputed Rabbis, read reputed books and follow my personal intuition. I do not rebel against my religion; I simply tell myself that unfortunately the information I have been fed in the past has been skewed and manipulated. The ill nature of the one who taught me is what confused me. I have the freedom to find my God in my own way. I believe that His Torah is absolutely amazing and full of wisdom, that everyone, not only the Jewish People can greatly benefit from this sea of knowledge. My only take on things is get educated properly and remember there is good and bad in everything; use your common sense.

 5. Conclusion

Personally I think that “the Asifa” (Internet Gathering) was a beautiful thing. To see Forty-Thousand Jewish people in one very large stadium, not to mention all the other thousands that were viewing in through YouTube and other Internet Media sources. Woops, did I just say Internet Media sources??? Yes I did!

Furthermore, the event was sponsored by an Internet Filtering company. What relevance does that make? The solution was that every household needs a Filtering system in order to use the Internet.

For those Marketers and Business specialists that are reading; Yes it is funny and “$$Kaching$$”

For us simpletons; how are we supposed to react to this?

  1. You’re telling me not to go on the internet without a filtering system (what is that anyways?) yet you broadcast your event on YouTube (did I mention that you cannot filter YouTube? Filtering software such as K9, which is the one I have, blocks YouTube completely and I need to authorize it I would like to use that website. If I allow it, I have unblocked the entire website! Think about it).
  2. The only solution the Rabbis came up with; was to have a filter on my computer and I know that it was a Filtering Company that funded your event.

The Rabbis are not talking about the reasons why we even go on the internet in the first place; nor do they discuss why we need to explore the world beyond the doors of our synagogues and Rabbinical Colleges. Since when did these Rabbis become so Tech Savvy if they themselves have spent all their times in Synagogues and Rabbinical Colleges?

I can safely conclude that I am full of doubt, lack of trust and absolutely confused. How am I supposed to accept and respect these Rabbis?

I hope this has clarified a little on our communities and surroundings. My personal request from all the readers is to please not judge and assume anything about us. Come over and speak to us, speak to more than one of us, do your research and use your common sense.

I would love to hear back from the readers and share in dialog on this topic and it will be my pleasure to answer any of your questions if you have any.

Lessons learned from some very successful “Role-Models”

Logging on to my Facebook account this morning, I came across a link posted by a friend. It was his comment on an article posted by TechCrunch talking about how Mark Zuckerberg (founder of Facebook.com) isn’t a role model; rather Reid Hoffman (founder of LinkedIn.com) is.  Reid started his company, LinkedIn, in 2003; however it took him a while to pick it up to be where it is today. Unlike Mark, who pretty much took the market with frenzy in his early 20s. In order to understand more of the point TechCrunch is trying to make, I suggest reading the article here.

After reading the article and then reading the comments left below, I was somewhat intrigued to find that many people were missing a very important point. How can you compare these two Social Networks? And what makes one or the other a better “role model”? They are both very different in every way possible. – I simply didn’t get it…

The main reason for their differences is the fact that they target different crowds. Facebook targets the younger population, whom want to know everything about everyone. Whereas; LinkedIn targets the business or professional that is trying to make some kind of connection or impression on others.

This brings me to the point of my article, and a great lesson in life!

We chose our role models based on our interests, beliefs and morals. We get attracted to, and we attract those that are somewhat similar to us in social status, way of thinking, way of speech and way of conduct. As the expression goes, “Birds of similar feather flock together”.  With that being said, we pick our leaders that most inspire us.

The same way we chose our role models and leaders; is also the same way we attract the kind of negativity in our lives. If we come across someone that annoys us, bothers us; or we simply dislike him or her for whatever reason. One must ask, what character trait in me attracted this person? What did I do, that got me in this mess in the first place?

This is when we need to look through our character defects, admit to them, and start working on them. This way we can work on attracting only positivity to our energy that surrounds us. With our deflation of our ego, we may achieve heights that we have never imagined of. This may take time, but who’s in a rush? Remember to take care of yourself and let the wonders of life play their designated roles!

Who are your role models? What is so special in them, that attracts you to them? I would love to hear what you have so say.